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Unlike an actual wedding, few, if any, traditional rules apply to a vow renewal ceremony. You can celebrate with as large or as small a party as you want, wear whatever you want, and say whatever you want. You could use your vow renewal as a fun excuse to travel. Or if you weren't satisfied with your wedding the first time around, this could be your chance to redo it. Ultimately, you and your husband should decide together what size and style of event suits you best.
You can use your original marriage vows, or you may want to add or write new words. This would be an excellent way to reflect upon how your relationship has grown over the years. This vow renewal template and these sample renewal vows may help. You may also find these general tips for writing vows useful. Or you could opt for traditional religious
vows. A few sources say that some parts of a traditional wedding are inappropriate for an older, already-married couple -- such as the bride being walked down the aisle by her father. Instead, you could walk solo, walk with your husband, or, if you have children, walk with them. Who knows? There may not even be an aisle. A ring exchange may be unnecessary, unless you are exchanging new rings or have had your rings refashioned or re-inscribed for the occasion. One site says a wedding gown and veil are not appropriate for a vow renewal, although other
sites say to wear what you want. If you have children, you may want to include them by asking them to act as your attendants. All our sources agreed that you should not request gifts. You don't get to register for new china at a vow renewal, nor can you have another bridal shower. Wedding gifts and showers are intended to give newlyweds the household items they'll need as they start a new life together. A couple renewing their vows is assumed to have enough household clutter already. Aside from the issue of gifts,
you have free reign to plan the event as you see fit. So congratulations and enjoy!
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